I am qualified to offer individual therapy to adult clients (18+). I believe that as a counsellor I can’t solve my clients’ problems and that it is not in fact my job. Rather I work in partnership with my clients to create the environment that they need in order to help them explore, grow and develop.
One of the first steps in counselling is to create what we call a ‘therapuetic alliance’, which is another name for a partnership or a collaboration between the therapist and the client. It is important to create a safe environment where clients can feel comfortable to open up, and speak honestly about everything they need to explore or discuss. I therefore I dedicate time to make sure the physical environment is safe and comfortable, I clarify boundaries of the therapeutic relationship including confidentiality and how it work in private practice. I also help my clients explore what their needs, goals and expectations are from therapy.
It is not easy to speak to a person you have never met about personal issues and I am well aware of the privilege of sitting in front of a person in that role. I understand that it is up to me to help my client feel confidence and trust in me and the process.
My training was based on humanistic principles and I practice from a Person-Centred approach although I would use skills from other approaches if and when it is needed. According to humanistic therapy we need certain core conditions in order to develop as much as possible to our full potential. These conditions are empathy, unconditional positive regard and congruence. This means being able to feel with my client and relate to their suffering and story, to listen to them without judgment and to be real. I don’t play a role. I am being myself in my work and humanistic therapy not only allows me to do this but in fact requires me to be real and truthful with my clients.
Unfortunately, people don’t always get what they need in childhood or life in general in order to thrive, not just survive. The purpose of counselling is to offer these conditions and help people get on the right track and this is what I like to do. I work with men and women who are committed and motivated and who are serious about the task of exploring and resolving their difficulties.
The BACP Ethical Framework now includes a prohibition on ‘conversion therapies’ and requires therapists to treat LGB&T clients the same way we would treat all clients, as people with inherent human rights and dignity who deserve to be treated with equality and respect (see ‘Update to BACP Statement of ethical practice (1)’ at the bottom of the Ethics section of this website).
For more information on ethics, confidentiality and boundaries please refer to the Ethics section on this website.
*Please note that I reserve the right, and have the ethical duty to refuse to see client groups whose needs are beyond the scope of my work, or with whom I am not trained to work.